I struggle with distinguishing between jealousy, intimidation, and wanting to be someone’s friend.
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I don’t think I’ve ever felt intimidated by a teenage boy, but I’m self-conscious around boys I think are cool. I’ve had crushes on a lot of boys who were really cute and intelligent, but never acted on them.
Boys are just inherently intimidating to me—I’m only friends with girls so I don’t understand boys like 99% of the time. I’ve liked boys from afar, and I would automatically write them off because I thought they wouldn’t think I was cute, or I would guess that we wouldn’t share any interests.
DUDE, I WAS PROJECTING A LACK OF CONFIDENCE AND BELITTLING OTHERS! I have to remind myself that even if you’re the perfectly intimidating girl in my head who wears a leather jacket and great eyeliner, you probably still feel insecure, and you have to pee just like everyone else, and you probably watch Netflix alone sometimes, too. GABBY: Yeah, it was shocking the first time I found out.
So I guess the moral is don’t describe people as intimidating unless they’re literally threatening you. ALSO, we’re all intimidated by each other, secretly.
Also, we’ve both been called “intimidating” by our peers, teachers, and parents, and all of them meant it as a compliment. A lot of girls we know have been called intimidating, so we decided to talk to each other about what this phenomenon actually means.
—Gabby GABBY: Do you remember what if felt like the first time someone described you as intimidating?
Finding out if you intimidate them can be the key to attracting Mr. Alternatively, they will look at you when you are not paying attention; but when you notice, they will look away.
When a man averts his gaze like this, he may be communicating that he is afraid of you, according to Reginald Adams and Robert Kleck in a 2003 study in “Psychological Science.” His nonverbal behavior is telling you to avoid him, rather than approach him.
GABBY: When I imagine an intimidating person, I think of a physically strong girl wearing a black leather jacket and perfect cat eyeliner. GABBY: I just Googled the definition of , and it means “to make timid or fearful, frighten especially, or to compel or deter as if by threats.” HAZEL: WE’RE NOT SCARY OR THREATENING! GABBY: I don’t think I’ve ever frightened someone into doing something for me, but one time in high school this boy I hated said that I scared him.
Which I think I DID, because I basically tore apart his sexist, racist statements in class in a way that made him question his existence! I think confidence definitely gets roped in with intimidation, too.
HAZEL: I was whining to a friend about boys not liking me, and he said, “I think guys are just intimidated by you.” I was offended—it seemed like a cop-out! A friend in high school told me that other people found me intimidating—she said it in a way that wasn’t insulting.